Tips for Getting Motivated“Believe you can and you’re halfway there.”
Do you ever have a hard time getting things done? After a busy day with the kids, do you ever feel like all you want to do is just sit in front of the TV and eat popcorn for hours and hours? While relaxation and rest are very important, it can be a problem if you can never get motivated to complete necessary tasks. I have found that these ideas for trying to get going have been helpful.
The first technique is a skill taught in Dialectical Behavioral Therapy called opposite action. If you push yourself to do the opposite of what you feel like doing, you will find energy that you did not know you had. For example: if all you want to do is sit in front of the TV, you might try getting up and going for a walk, calling a friend, or dancing in the living room. It may be easier to transition into doing what you need to do from one of these activities vs just sitting with popcorn. So, remember that motivation follows action. Don’t let emotions cause you to behave in a way that stifles you.
Another technique for getting going can be illustrated as follows: imagine a bunch of wires and cords all tangled up. One of the wires represents the problem that you want to work on.
Say you have this big problem, (wire) and you are trying your best to work on it but it feels so tied up with all the other areas of your life, (other cables and wires) that it feels almost impossible to shift. If you’re really stuck with that one problem, it’s ok to move on and try to shift some of the other problems, (the other cables/wires). If you can push the one that wants to move, or do what works at the time, just keep making progress, and if you do that for long enough it creates space which can help when you go back to your original problem.
A third technique is to play a game with yourself so to speak. The game involves evaluating the task at hand and seeing how fast you can complete it. So set your stopwatch on your phone, and get moving. You will surprise yourself with how quickly you are done with that task. Strive to be efficient and productive.
Lastly, try setting a timer for the amount of time you think you can tolerate working on a task. Even if you set the timer for 5 or 10 minutes, you may be in a groove when the timer goes off and may opt to continue working on the task. Otherwise try again the next day.
I’m hoping that one of these strategies helps you the next time you feel stuck. Give one of them a try and see what you think!
“People begin to become successful the minute they decide to be."